Do you practice self-love? We say the phrase “I love you” to many people we love from our parents, significant others, and our children, however, do we ever use the phrase on ourselves? Self-love doesn’t innately happen, we have to practice loving ourselves each and every day. People who love themselves seem to be generally happier and more fulfilled in their daily lives. When you love yourself, you acknowledge your achievements and take time to really enjoy the journey of life.
How can you expect others to love you when you don’t love yourself? When we don’t love ourselves the negative effects can be crippling. Have you ever known either yourself or someone else who is having trouble attracting a significant other into their lives? Many times when we haven’t taken the time to really love ourselves it prevents us from attracting someone to love us back. Self-love builds confidence within us to make decisions and trust our own self. Loving yourself is a constant practice you have to consciously be aware in order to be successful at it.
Have you ever fallen in love with someone? If you have, you can appreciate how much love is a wonderful feeling. When we fall in love, we feel the positive effects and feelings love brings us from within. So if you can fall in love with someone, why not fall in love with yourself? Stop and look at yourself in the mirror, examine yourself, become attracted to your looks you have been given. We each have something special about us and the key is to discover what makes you special and love every bit of it.
We tend to focus on what we don’t have or the ways we can change ourselves. If we don’t love who we are in the present, how do we expect to love yourself in the future? Regardless of what goals we may achieve, whether its weight loss or a complete makeover, love just won’t automatically develop. The level of attraction a person views themselves has nothing to do with the ability to love oneself. Some of the most beautiful people in the world have a hard time even finding love with themselves.
Think about your typical day, look at all the positive outcomes that occur. Whether it’s making into work, going to the gym, or completing a task, be sure to acknowledge what you have done for yourself. We have to give ourselves credit for even the simple things, the more we practice this the more we value who we are in the moment.
Look over your day and count how many times you were critical on yourself compared to how much you compliment yourself. The amount of time and energy we use to judge ourselves is staggering. Judgment can usually originate from the act of comparing ourselves to others, who we think are better than us. The truth is, when we compare our accomplishments to others we are losing time to love ourselves. If you take the energy used to compare yourself to everyone else and instead, use it on complimenting yourself, you would be amazed how much more self love you’ll have.